When I am married and old I will wear ridiculously large hats

This week has been all about enjoying the small pleasures of being an adult with no job. There was alot of dancing around my apartment in my pajamas, alot of sleeping in and staying up late, and alot of cereal because I didnt feel like cooking. Twas wonderful.

I did get out of the house occasionally, and went to the arts and crafts festival outside the old city. They have booths from all over the world selling clothes and art and jewelry (I got to try on some craaazy hats- see attached pic), and performers set up throughout the fair. I got to watch some Korean dancers shake it to "Celebrate", and most importantly, I finally got to go to a fair where I could eat the food. Unfortunately no one in this country has ever heard of funnel cake :( but I had some excellent cotton candy AND I got my face painted :) Yehudit Ravitz was also playing, but I got there too late and couldnt get into the concert, so I had to dance outside with the few hundred other Israelis that didnt make it in.

Today was a day for Israeliness. I spent the morning at the Shuk marvelling at the hairy Israeli men trying to outshout each other and the Bubbe's pushing their carts through the crowd, while loading up on the amazingly fresh veggies. Then I prepared an Israeli salad for 25, cutting all of my vegetables into very tiny pieces (all 11 cucumbers and 9 tomatoes) and eliciting quite a few "my how Israeli of you" compliments during dinner. Why, you ask was I making salad for 25? Well tonight, four friends and I hosted a Sheva Brachot for David and Davida. (The week after a Jewish couple gets married there are seven meals hosted for them, at which, if you have ten men, seven blessings are said for the newlyweds.) Unfortunately, this was a Sheva Brachot for all of Davida's friends, and we ended up with only four men and were not going to be able to say the brachot (blessings). But, as the determined young souls we were, we did not give up. First we called the Rabbi and made sure that we couldnt do it with ten women, and then, we scoured the park where we were eating trying to wrangle up some Jewish men. After about twenty minutes and a slightly awkward interruption of a Tai Chi class, we had gathered the necessary men (we even got one extra!) and were able to say the Sheva Brachot. My favorite part was knowing that we could walk up to strange men in a park and tell them we were trying to make a minyan (a group of ten men), and not only did they know what we were talking about, but they eagerly came to participate.

Anyway, I am headed up north tomorrow to go camp on the beach so I am going to go to bed now. OH! I forgot to tell some of you. I am flying to America next week :) I will be landing in NY on the 20th, and heading to boston for the weekend. I will then be visiting the g'rents up in NH, coming back to NY for shabbat and from then on Im all MD!! Ill be in the DC metropolitan area for about three weeks and would love to see everyone! So email, fb, after the 30th I will have a cell phone. I should warn you, that I cannot plan anything too far in advance. So sorry if that makes me kind of flaky.

David/a's wedding

Was Beautiful!! Check out the pics!

Ding Dong the bells are gonna chime!!

I have found that I am astonishingly busy for a person that is does nothing.

This was the pre-wedding week, and I spent a good amount of time helping Davida out with the various things that she had to get done. I spent one day with Davida and her dad working on the house that she and David are moving into, we had a rather spectacular bachelorette party one night (and I spent the next day recovering from it), I designed a frame for her Ketuba, and spent most of today with her and two other friends. We went Mayan-hopping (a mayan is a natural pool of water), hung out on the Tayelet (park that overlooks most of Jerusalem), and then frantically called around trying to find a notary to sign off on their pre-nup tonight.

The wedding is tomorrow morning and I will be going straight to Efrat afterwards, which is why I am sending this email tonight.

So basically, this was a week for Davida and I have been trying to help in any way I can to alleviate some of the pre-wedding stress. I have never been this up close and personal with a bride (and groom) the week before their wedding, and I have learned that it is both scary and amazing. Everyone is stressed, but it comes out differently. Some people become short and temperamental and fight about small things. Others get quiet and keep it all in until they hit a breaking point. And everyone becomes very self-focused. I guess what amazes me is that through all the fights and stresses and breakdowns, they still want to get married!

I know I am at the age where my friends are going to start getting married, and I am supposed to be thinking about it as well. And while this is not the first wedding of my peers, it is the first where I am so close to the couple and had a chance to witness a relationship develop into a marriage. And I wanted to talk about all I have learned right now, but I am having trouble articulating my thoughts. Unclear whether that is because I am tired or just havent formulated any opinions yet. What I can say is that it amazes me to see two people so committed to being together, that are so happy that even when they are miserable or fighting they still see their future together clearly. I envy that certainty. I am not that sure about anything in life, or rather, any certainty I do feel is tempered by a heart-wrenching fear that I am wrong.

Anyway, that is my thought to ponder. I am going to sleep so that I can fully rejoice in the certainty and love of my two friends tomorrow morning.

Summer Pics!!

Here are some pics of my summer adventures:

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=2442923&id=5727708&l=b8fa207fdd

השיבינו ה' אליך

Yesterday was Tisha B'Av, the anniversary of the destruction of both the first and second Temples. It is a day where we mourn the destruction of Jerusalem and the Temples and the sins that brought it upon us. We physically mourn, by fasting and not showering, and sitting on the floor. We read Eicha (Lamentations) and are supposed to spend the day feeling sadness for what we have lost.

Wednesday night, I went to the Kotel (the Western Wall) to read Eicah with my roommate, Davida, and her brother, Nadav. Despite this being a sad day, the Kotel tends to be a bit of a social scene the night of Tisha B'Av. There are alot of people there, as it is the closest spot to where the Temple once stood that Jews can go. Some come to mourn, some come to pray, and some come because its what everyone else is doing that night. They extend the mechitzah, the divider between the mens section and the womens section, and the plaza is patrolled by what I like to call the "Mechitzah Police". These are religious individuals who take it upon themselves to ensure that nothing "inappropriate" is happening and that all genders are on their appropriate side. I have encountered them once before, on Yom Yerushalayim, where they were creating physical barriers (Red Rover style) to ensure that women were not dancing with men. To put it simply, they pissed me off then, and I felt no need to listen to a bunch of teenagers that were trying to tell me where to stand. Anyway, Davida, Nadav, and I sat down towards the back of the plaza so that we could read together. Before we could start, we were approached by a woman in a neon vest (Mechitzah Police) and told that we could not sit there together and if we wanted to sit together we would have to leave the plaza area. Pointing out the dozen or so men wandering about the area and clarifying that Nadav was Davidas brother did not seem to help, and as she refused to move until we did, we eventually got up to look for a new spot. I was, shall we say, angry. Which, in turn, upset me because it was Tisha B'Av and I didnt want to be angry at another Jew. Our Sages say that the first Temple was destroyed because of three things: sexual immorality, murder, and idolatry. That lead to 70 years in exile. The second Temple was destroyed for one reason, sinat chinam, baseless hatred. And we are still in exile for that today.

It pained me to fight with another Jew on this night, and as we read Eicha, I struggled with my reactions to this encounter. She upset me because I felt that she did not respect us and the way we connect to Hashem. It upset me that she felt the need to push her religious standard on me. But if I argue with her, if I refuse her request to move, how am I respecting her connection? She is doing what she believes is right, trying to protect the holiness of this evening and this place. I did not want to be angry with her.

We had settled down next to one of the mechitza walls (on the mens side) and after reading Eicha, I went over to the womens section to pray, leaving Nadav and Davida sitting there. When I came back, there was a Mechitza Policeman arguing with Nadav and a woman sitting near them, while Davida was crying. Apparantly Davida had been lying down with Nadav sitting next to her and this man told her to leave because she was being immodest. Now there are hundreds of people walking around, sitting on the ground, and lying on the ground all around us, but, he said, that because Davida was a woman it was not modest for her to be lying on the ground. Davida sat up and said that she wasnt moving, and that she understood that he said what he needed to according to his principles and that she was going to stay there because of her principles. He didnt really like this answer and then turned to Nadav to try to get her to move. I am not sure what happened after that, but when I walked over Davida was crying, Nadav was sitting with her, and a random woman was arguing on Davida's behalf. This was one of those moments where I wished I was more eloquent in Hebrew, but I basically said, "It is Tisha Bav and you are making another Jew cry." to which he replied "It is good to cry on Tisha Bav" and walked away. He later returned to give us flyers about baseless hatred.

We read about all the horrible things that Bnei Yisrael did to Hashem that brought about the first destruction. Our nation is compared to a whore and as I read about the sins we committed and how we turned our backs on God, I understand our punishment. The sins that brought about the second destruction are not as present in our biblical texts, but it is when things like this happen that I see why we are still in galut, in exile.

These past few months at PresenTense we spent alot of time discussing modern day Zionism and how there is still so much that needs to be done. Jews are supposed to be a light unto the nations, and in the modern world, Israel is not. We are not. We are so divided, and so busy fighting with each other, how could we be a light unto others? It was inspiring to see so many individuals coming together and trying to change the face of the Jewish world. These are people that see problems in where we stand as Jews or as Israelis and are working to fix them. That man was right, it is good to cry on Tisha B'Av, because those tears helped me realize what we are mourning. We live in a world where too many people do not respect each other, let alone love each other. Rav Kook teaches that "Ha'ahava tzricha lehiot male balev lakol"- literally, "The love needs to be filling your heart towards everything/one". Baseless hatred can only be fought with baseless love. But how can we learn to love each other when we cannot even respect each other?

Sending my love, and hoping it spreads,

Kfi

Last night I met someone whose last name is Keefer. We immediatly became friends.

Ahhh!

That is my description of the week. It accounts for lovely surprises and overwhelming work and relief and celebrations.

So starting with the first one, this Sunday was my birthday (thanks parents!) and I had to work most of the day. Which was actually more than ok, because the people I work with are awesome. My boss had all the interns sing to me and we ate lots of ice cream and then later the fellows brought in cake and ice cream and sang to me again. The co founder of PresenTense literally skipped down the street singing Happy Birthday when he saw me, and everyone was altogether really nice. Also, my other half/bestest friend sent her gigantically tall brother to presentense bearing cake and flowers embarassing me in that wonderfully birthdayish way(and eliciting an Ahhh!). And I really appreciated all the emails and facebook messages and phone calls throughout the week. I was feeling very loved.

Next Ahhh! was the craziness that was PresenTense this week. This was the last week of the six week institute, culminating in our huge launch night even on Thursday. And, as I have been labeled the second in command of the institute (like spock), I was running around like a crazy person making sure everything was running all week, all the fellows werent freaking out, all the interns were doing what they were supposed to be (I was also put in charge of all the interns when the intern coordinator left last week) and helping plan everything for the final event. Which elicits the third Ahhh! of having it all go well and be amazing. So what happens at Launch Night is that each of the fellows that have been working on 14 different projects all summer have 15 seconds to pitch their projects to a crowd of investors and donators and people who are important to network with and then 45 minutes to talk to people that approach their tables. And it was awesome. I met so many people and was chatting it up all night and everyone was amazing and I had soo much fun. You can look on their website and see the videos of the pitches and of the crowd. Its super cool. www.presentense.org

We all went out and celebrated afterwards, which kept me out until 4 am or so, but was so much fun. We are having out last Shabbaton this weekend and then the Institute is over :( I am excited to have a life back again since I have been working my tush off, but I am going to miss hanging out with these people all the time since they are simply amazing. But all good things must come to an end, and it is about time I got back to figuring out what I am going to be doing for the next year. So next week is devoted to army research and calling lots of people to try and get some information. Which PresenTense has given me alot of experience in so hopefully it will work.

On a non-Ahhh! note, this past Shabbat, Jimmy the sixteen year old non jewish son of Kathie from the art department stayed with me and got a crash course in orthodox Judaism. We had so much fun. Not only is he hilarious, but he was having the time of his life learning about the weird things we do on Shabbat and while we cook and it was really nice to have a fresh face about. I actually took him to work on Sunday morning before we went to wander around the arab shuk for a bit, and everyone there loved him as well.

So its been a really eventful and exciting week and now I am soo excited for Shabbat (and the fact that I dont have to cook anything). So I am going to go shower and relax and sleep :)

"Blast" and other comic book expletives

This morning someone woke me up with a question about scrap metal. I kind of like how I am the go-to person for questions like this.

So this week we went on a field trip with PresenTense up to the Haifa area. We went to the Google center (who, by the way, are going to take over the world and I am totally cool with it), where they gave us a presentation on YouTube and lots of free food. (They had an entire fridge full or Ben and Jerry's- which is even more exciting in Israel). If any of you ever have the opportunity to work for Google- do it.

We also went to Kfar Tikva which is a village for adults with special needs. They have created an entire community there to support adults with special needs but still give them the freedoms that we all deserve when we grow up. It was the first of its kind when it started like 30 years ago, and it is still a unique program today.

And then we went to the Tishbi Winery and got lots of free drinks. Luckily we were headed straight home after that so I didnt have to worry so much about maintaining balance. Or so I thought. On the way home one of the other interns, who is also a certified tour guide, wanted to give an explanation of the area but had no map. So she asked me to stand in. So I got to stand in front of the bus with my hand on my head and one leg crooked and try to maintain balance. It didnt work so well. There were also some awkward moments when we were talking about the mountainous north.

Other than that, my week was really good. I am having a blast hanging out with the fellows. My favorite is a librarian from NY who has an absolutely ridiculous laugh and yells "blast" whenever something goes wrong. Then there is the Israeli boy who still flirts like a 12 year old, and by that I mean we abuse each other at every opportunity and try to trip each other. Then there is the 29 year old working on a follow up program for palestinian-israeli programs who is obsessed with ultimate frisbee and acts like shes 19. Is it weird that all the ones I am making friends with dont act anything close to their age?

The interns are also pretty rockin, both metaphorically and literally. I spent 2-3 hours last night hanging out with some of them while they jammed. I sometimes wish I was musical, but then I dont know if I would appreciate other peoples talent as much.

That was about it for the excitement of the week. Yesterday was a fast day because it is the anniversary of the beginning of the siege of Jerusalem. For the next three weeks Jerusalem fought, inside and out, until the Temple was destroyed. It feels much more real, living in Jerusalem now.

Anyway, my shabbat plans just came together incredibly last minute and I am headed down south to Yerucham to see my friend from high school. So I gotta book it and get my stuff otgether so I dont miss the last bus.